Feedback as a Mirror

By: Rosemary

For many of us, this is a sensitive topic, taking feedback from people around us can be so annoying and irritating as it often comes off as criticism or ungratefulness from the other party, I have issues myself with taking certain feedback but today I came to realize, no matter how much embarrassing, annoying and irritating it is to listen to what others think you should work on to better, in most cases we actually have flaws that we never notice as negative reflections of our character.

And if not worked upon, these flaws spill and destroy our various relationships with people around us, be it family, friends, relatives or intimate others. In most cases when we don't take the feedback we start thinking that others do not understand us or hate us in a certain way yet in an actual sense these are people that want us to be a better version of ourselves.

If you want to be understood, first try to understand the other person, every time you focus on understanding the nature of people around, you reduce the friction that may occur by 80% and improve your self-esteem equally.

All in all lets take criticism as our reflection to others and try to work upon those aspects of our lives that make us the bad person in someone else's story . and I repeat , it does not matter where this feedback comes from being it from someone he does not like you as you often say hates you, or from a very loving and caring individual, at the end of the day , they took time to notice those aspects of you that are not desirable.

my dear readers make it a point to learn something new everyday, do not let any day pass without you learning something new and making the decision to improve yourself as a person, look around you, the people that you live with or work with , then sit down and reflect on those aspects of their lives that you hate as well as those you like , take a moment and reflect on yourself , are there things you do that also irritate others , sometimes theses aspects are overlooked for example poor timekeeping, poor etiquette according to different places or even being so talkative that you do not know when to stop, what is funny is that these are things that are part of us and we often look at them as being real, being myself yet, in reality, it's being the poor version of ourselves .

I guess we will talk about basic life skills in our next article, goodbye, for now, don't forget to leave a comment and

I wrote this particularly inspired by Ms. Kihuguru Jackie.